sibylle chaudhuri | coaching & training


Systemic and NLP Coach


Newsletter - January 2011


Free your way for success


I wish you all a brilliant and well-balanced New Year and hope you had a great start into 2011.


Most of us make one or more New Year's resolutions on New Year's Eve or on New Year's day to become a better, slimmer, healthier, more successful, more polite, more understanding, etc. person. However statistics say that we have broken more than 90 percent of all resolutions we have made by February.


Did you stick with your New Year's resolutions so far?


Personally, I don't believe in New Year's resolutions. If you want to do something with all your heart, you will go for it - regardless of the date in your calendar. In case you actually don't really want it but think you "should", "must", "have to", "ought to", "owe it to yourself." ... there is a good chance it won't work out.


Either way it often seems quite difficult for many of us to reach our goals.


What stops us?


Following are three stumbling blocks that can make achieving our goals hard, and how we can overcome them to clear our way for success:


1. Lack of self-confidence
We are not good enough, we lack experience, we don't deserve it, we couldn't possibly succeed, etc.


"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us." Marianne Williamson


Here is the answer to overcome our first stumbling block:
Don't wait any longer, jump right in, NOW. Go and get started; and while you are on your way to your goal you can always adjust appropriately and improve your strategy. Let your light shine and while doing so you allow and encourage others to do so as well.


It is your birthright to get the best and to enjoy life. So go for it.


2. Perfectionism
We cannot start, yet, because our project still needs improvement. There are still a thousand things to do before we even can think about starting. We still need to accumulate more knowledge and further educate ourselves. We need more proof that we are capable of doing things (certificates, references, experience), etc.


Perfectionism is the best way to paralyse and therewith to boycott yourself and your undertakings.


Imagine you are at the age of 85, looking back on your life. Would you like to think you have always tried to make everything perfect and hence never actually done anything? Or would you rather think of yourself as a person who has tried everything and always made the best out of it?


Nothing is really perfect in this world and everything on our planet, including nature, is in a constant process of change - and how perfect is nature actually?


Can anything ever be perfect without any need to adapt and refine permanently?


And what could possibly be so important in the world for the need of being perfect?


Give others a chance to profit from what you have to offer them; allow them to use your services and your expertise for their own good.


Just be happy with what you can do now and start doing it and still always maintain your desires to further educate and improve while moving ahead.


3. Not doing what we want to do

„Often we don't even realize who we're meant to be because we're so busy trying to live out someone else's ideas. But other people and their opinions hold no power in defining our destiny." Oprah Winfrey, O Magazine, November 2009


In our need to be acknowledged, appreciated and accepted by others we often start living our life the way other people expect us to.


In doing so we loose our authenticity, we don't follow our passion any longer, we don't know anymore what we want or not want, and we cannot trust ourselves further to any extent. As a result we become insecure and loose faith in ourselves. We don't know any longer who we are.


Start connecting with your inner self again, get back to your childhood dreams, find out what it is that you really want in your life, and discover your life's purpose. Don't give up on yourself and be kind to yourself. Trust your inner wisdom and start doing what it is that you really want to do - with all your heart, your passion and your enthusiasm.


Click here to see a short video to inspire you to follow and achieve your dreams.


Have you already read my monthly quotation for January and my short excursion?

Please feel free to forward this e-mail to family, friends and colleagues. This is a monthly newsletter.


Until next month take care and be well,




sibylle Chaudhuri
coaching & training


Systemic and NLP Coach

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