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Newsletter - December 2010


X-Mas spirit all year through


"I wish we could put up some of the Christmas spirit in jars and open a jar of it every month."
Harlan Miller


Although the Christmas-preparations can put us under stress, it still seems that during the few weeks before and around Christmas we are more caring and loving. The festival season brings many holidays to lift our spirits not only Christmas but also Ramadan, Diwali, Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, New Year's Eve and many more. We are much more of a family person all of a sudden, we think about world peace, we have more compassion, patience with others and start overflowing with altruism. So, how is it that we are so much more the person we generally would like to be during the festival season and not all year through?


I gave it much thought and came up with the following possibilities:


During this time of the year we go easier on ourselves than usual. The year is nearly over, we have done so much already and we can allow ourselves to relax a little bit more and slow down our pace. Of course going easy on ourselves we do so with others as well.


We take more time for reflection, which leads us to think more of others who are less fortunate than us, and we give a little to charities. We go and buy presents for family and friends and therewith again we naturally spend more thoughts on others. All this gives us the feeling to do something good for other people. This in return makes us feel better, again. The better we feel the more self-confident we become and by extension more compassionate and patient with our fellow men and of course women ;-)).


We do not need jars of Christmas spirit to open every month throughout the year as Harlan Miller wished. Just try the following to keep up the Christmas spirit all year through:


1. Slow down consciously now and then and do everything very slowly and consciously for a few minutes.


2. Take a few deep breaths in and out, and allow yourself to reflect on you and your life, and tell yourself regularly, "Perfect does not exist."


3. Every day, do something small for somebody else. Help an elderly woman across the street, buy a coffee for a homeless person or give them a pound, help a friend, colleague or a neighbour with some chores, etc.


4. Do something good for yourself every single day like taking a hot bath, buy some nice chocolate, have a good cappuccino during your lunch break, enjoy the sunshine for a few minutes (here in the UK enjoy every sunray as long as possible ;-) ), etc.


5. Smile at people as often as you can and most people will smile back. This makes you and the other person instantly feel more appreciated and it makes you feel good.


6. A very simple exercise which is so powerful that it can easily transform our lives is to show gratitude. Thinking, saying and writing gratitude helps us to be in the present moment and to focus on all the positive things in our lives, to concentrate on everything we have and our strengths. As a result we become more self-conscious, creative and productive. We will be very motivated individuals ready to share what we have, and to accept and embrace others the way they are.


Have a good start and motivate yourself with the ‘Gratitude Dance' ;-):


Please feel free to forward this e-mail to family, friends and colleagues. This is a monthly newsletter.


I wish you a very happy and Merry Christmas and a healthy, happy and prosperous New Year with loads of good luck.


Enjoy your life every minute and be well,



sibylle Chaudhuri
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Systemic and NLP Coach

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