First rough night for effortless success: 25th December

Foundation, basis, roots

Sibylle Chaudhuri

24rd December 2020


Pic from Gerd Altman on Pixabay
Pic from Gerd Altman on Pixabay

The rough nights with their individual topics can help us to achieve our goals and experience success faster and effortlessly. Effortless does not mean that we never have to invest any time and work, it rather means that it is allowed to be fun and therefore does not feel like work.


The rough nights guide us step by step towards our true self and topics and areas we are interested in and – hopefully – even have a passion for. Let’s keep in mind that success means something different for everybody e.g., a promotion, child rearing, a good teamwork with your employees, your garden, your business, etc. In terms of


“Find a job you love, and you'll never work a day in your life.”


This quote is attributed to several intelligent heads like Confucius and Mark Twain. I understand “job” as your mission or even your calling.


The rough nights date back to the Celts and Germanic tribes and their traditions. They saw them as a time of transition, a time of renewal and rebirth and as a time of upraise. 


It is also a perfect time for us to break new ground. Be open and take time for the tasks of the 12 rough nights which I am going to explain to you the day before.


Today we are getting started with round one of the rough nights, beginning 25th December at 00:00 hrs, ending 25th December 24:00 hrs. This first rough night we are going to create a solid foundation with healthy roots. 


Before we start doing so, I am going to give you some general tips …




How we can make best use of the rough nights

Pictures (left to right) from Pexels, free-stock-photos, bertvthul  auf Pixabay

#1 Heart over mind during the rough nights

Less thinking, more feeling – listen to our heart and our gut feeling – and allowing us to sense and guess more. What comes to our mind first of all after asking ourselves a question is usually our intuition, everything after that is usually our ego.


#2 become still – meditation

Become still and listen to your inner self. What feelings are coming up? What desires, wishes, unfulfilled needs, and also ideas, possibilities. The crazier the better. Write everything down after your meditation.


#3 Keep an open mind, acknowledge signs and interpret them – write a diary

Allow yourself to be curious, hopeful, positive, and dreamful. Be open for something new and a new way. Notice each and every encounter with human beings or/and animals, text passages in a book, phrases in a podcast or movie that you respond to, touch you. Memories, thoughts, dreams and visions, everything has a meaning. Ask yourself what it could stand for. Remember, what comes into your mind first – the answer of your soul – is usually the correct answer, write it down. Everything else is your mind talking.


I recommend you write a journal during the rough nights in which you note everything.


#4 Write a dream diary

Every morning note what you have dreamed. Dreams can be messages which can have important meaning during the rough nights. You can use your journal for this too.


#5 Smoke cleansing

Energetic cleansing of your home, office, garden, etc.


#6 Go into nature

Going for a walk in nature is balm for your soul and refuels our batteries. It gives us peace and clarity.




Now let’s get started with round #1 of the rough nights

Pic from FelixMittermeier on Pixabay
Pic from FelixMittermeier on Pixabay

Now, we’ll go into round one of the rough nights, 25th December, Christmas Day. It is energetically assigned to the month of January.


January is the beginning of the year. Let’s view the year as a project just like your future plan. Both need a solid foundation, a healthy basis and strong roots.


Like each project it is important to prepare and plan thoroughly to transform our intentions into actions. And, with everything in life, it is best to start from the inside out.


Answer the following questions to strengthen your roots:

  • How about your roots – the roots of your family?
  • Which foundation are your roots build on?
  • How do you encounter your ancestors?
  • Do you ask them for advice and help? (signs, inspirations, etc.)
  • Which part in your family wants to be healed?
  • Who do you want to forgive? (Including yourself. Forgiveness is for you not the others.)


Next a few questions for your foundation and to start planning your success:

  • What do you want to achieve and put into practice next year? (wishes, dreams, plans, goals, etc.)
  • What do I want to take into the new year? (Resources, relationships, everything well-tried, etc.)
  • What do I want to let go and leave behind? (old injuries, limiting beliefs, prejudice, bad habits, judgments, relationships, old patterns, etc.).
  • Write a list of everything what you want to let go and leave behind.



Your rituals for the first rough night

Pic from blueartpapelaria von Pixabay
Pic from blueartpapelaria von Pixabay

Of course, everything is optional, no musts. Allow yourself to feel what is right for you and leave everything else aside.


#1 The following rituals are no musts only inspirations for you. What appeals to you? Do what you like and leave the rest aside.


#2 Bless and honour the roots of your family by lighting a candle for every family member. Say out loud or silently to yourself from all your heart, “I bless this light and I bless you.” while thinking of the family member you want to give your blessing.


#3 Burn your list of what you want to let go or leave behind in a fireproof form, best do it outside, and observe as everything goes up in smoke.


#4 Give mother nature a present, e.g. feeding birds.


#5 Leave a light on during the night for your ancestors. They cleared the way for you.


#6 Smoke clean your rooms with sage.


#7 Take a sea salt bath for energetic cleansing. When you shower the salt of imagine a green light taking off negative energy of you.


#8 Last but not least, take the first of your 13 wishes you wrote down and burn it. Ask the universe to take care of it.




Now: Have a Merry Christmas :-)

Pic from PublicDomainPictures von Pixabay
Pic from PublicDomainPictures von Pixabay

I wish you a Merry Christmas giving you 

tenderness for the past,

courage for the present,

a bright flame of hope for the future.

A Christmas filling you with love and compassion for yourself.

A Christmas that warms your heart and let it shine brightly,

and that every path may lead to peace.


I wish you a Merry Christmas filled with love and light, hope and courage, and loads of relaxation.


Be well.






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sibylle chaudhuri

beratung | coaching & training





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