4th rough nighs for your stress-less life

28th December – April

Change & Trust

Sibylle Chaudhuri

27th December 2022


Image by Gerd Altman on Pixabay
Image by Gerd Altman on Pixabay

The fourth rough night is energetically assigned to the month of April - the month of change. Rumour has it that April is indecisive due to its changeful and unsteady. Nature and weather are in alteration. Change is the face of this exciting month. 


April and the fourth rough night, both stand for a time of upheaval, it is about change, it is a time of resolution and release, transformation and acceptance. At the beginning this often is a time of turmoil and apparent chaos.


More faith – less stress

Image by Anemone123 from Pixabay
Image by Anemone123 from Pixabay

It is a bit like when you declutter your home. You start taking everything out of your cupboards and shelfs and sort it on piles, one pile for everything you want to throw out, one pile what you want to keep, and another one pending for the things you are not sure about yet. To someone coming for a surprise visit while you are decluttering your home it is seemingly in chaos. Only you can see the system behind it and know everything will be even better afterwards. Therefore, you can stay calm amidst the chaos.


Just as well, you can approach the weather events in April because you know that spring and then summer are waiting behind this seeming weather chaos, you trust that everything goes its way and will be well.


It is just the same with all areas in our life. When we experience change and chaos on the outside and manage to stay calm inside, we will experience less stress and more resilience.


Perception is the key

Often, we cannot change life circumstances and/or events, but we can change how we experience, perceive, and approach them. Like the different perceptions of our surprise visitor and ourselves while clearing our home.


This is the secret to approach change in general: To trust that everything is just right, everything goes its course and in the end everything will be well. And if that’s not helping, we can always try to change our perception, and we can question our thoughts, doubts and worries.


As sure as spring is knocking on April’s door is the New Year around the corner these days. We say goodbye to the old year and welcome the new one.


What can be of your assistance in letting go?

Image by S. Herrmann und F. Richter from Pixabay
Image by S. Herrmann und F. Richter from Pixabay

By letting go of the old we make space to breathe, clarity to focus on the important things. We can trust our innermost being, reduce stress and are more balanced.


Tip: The fourth rough night is a key night: day of the innocent children. This means today we can resolve what did not go so well over the last few rough nights.


What can help us in letting go?

1. Serenity and trust that everything is going its course.

2. Acceptance, that everything is right the way it is at the moment.


3. Forgiveness – including yourself.


Reconcile with everything and everyone.


Letting go also means forgiving

Image by congerdesign from Pixabay
Image by congerdesign from Pixabay

One form of letting go is forgiving. It strengthens your inner wisdom and trust in yourself.


Try to forgive everyone and everything. Best start with yourself.


Write everything on pieces of paper which you are going to burn in a fireproof dish somewhere outside again. Read your forgiveness on each piece of paper – best out loud – before you burn it. And while doing so imagine how you let go and say, “I forgive you, and I forgive myself.” As we all know – although I sometimes do not want to believe and/or admit it – it always takes two to tango.


In case you are facing the same difficulties as I do sometimes and it is hard for you at the beginning to forgive, always remember that forgiveness is for you NOT for the other person. Forgiveness takes a huge load of your back, restores your inner peace, reduces stress and strengthens your resilience. I think that’s worth a try.


To forgive does not mean that what happened is right, or that it is okay to happen again, and it does not mean that you are supposed to become best friends with the other person again – only, if you are forgiving yourself. The most important fact to bear in mind might be that often it is already enough to decide to forgive and to do so in your heart. It is not necessary to address the other person involved personally. 


Following you can do the following ritual:

Cleansing meditation

#1 Sit straight and comfortably and calm down by concentrating on your breath.

#2 Imagine a warm white light all around you and inside of you cleansing all negative energies.

#3 Imagine how everything negative is released of you and flowing into the earth where it is transformed into something beautiful


Remember to take another one of your 13 wishes and burn it while asking the universe to take care of it.


Now, just be well.





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sibylle chaudhuri | consulting | coaching | training | mediation


email: info@sibylle-chaudhuri.com





Everything provided in this newsletter is for informational, motivational and/or educational purposes only. Whether you change/do something in your life is your decision and yours only. You carry responsibility for your life.


The given content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, psychological and/or legal advice, diagnosis, treatment or consulting. Please consult your physician, therapist, lawyer regarding the applicability of any opinions or recommendations with respect to your concerns, symptoms and/or medical condition.



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