11th rough night for effortless success in 2021

4th January – November

Goodbye and welcome

Sibylle Chaudhuri

3rd January 2021



Picture from DarkmoonArt.de on Pixabay
Picture from DarkmoonArt.de on Pixabay

The eleventh rough night is energetically connected to the month November. November brings us dark and dull days. The plants let go of the last leaves and blossoms, nature retreats and is covered by a grey waft of mist. 


We often perceive November as dreary and unfriendly. Gone are the long and warm summer days, our sociable life with all those casual and relaxed encounters and balmy evenings spent outside. Like nature we have shifted our life inside into our warm homes.


We tend to compare the retreat of nature, its collecting of strength before spring, its recovery, with dying. Many fear November because they have the feeling that it brings nothing but loneliness, mourning and melancholy.


Nature follows calmly the change of season. She knows that every time has its meaning and accepts it gratefully.


Goodby and welcome

Picture from Gerd Altman on Pixabay
Picture from Gerd Altman on Pixabay

The eleventh rough night and November challenge us to follow nature's example and to finally let go of the old and open up to the new. Every farewell has a new beginning up it’s sleeves if we just allow it.


The only constant in our lives is change. Unfortunately, as human beings we are programmed in a way to fear change, anything new and unknown, it could be life-threatening.


When our ancestors had to stray off course of a known and safe path when being out in the wild, it was very important to look for dangers e.g. rampaging mammoth, hungry saber-toothed tigers, enemies of another tribe and more – their life was depending on it.


And it still works the same way today. We tend to see a potential threat in change and the new, the unknown. This is the reason why we have so much difficulties to welcome it into our life, we always see the danger, the negative first.


Imagine yourself going to a fortune teller and she predicts change in your love-life or your job. What comes into your mind immediately? Maybe something like:

  • “Oh no, s/he betrays me, s/he is going to dump me.”
  • “I knew they will fire me.”


Picture from Thomas B. on Pixabay
Picture from Thomas B. on Pixabay

Rarely do we remember that it could also just mean that we finally change our limiting patterns like not always wanting to be right, or really listening to our partner for a change, and that our partners have a really positive response to that and our relationship changes for the positive and gets even better.


A change in the job could also be a new boss, re-structuring that finally gets me where I always wanted to be, etc. Even getting fired could help me to finally follow my purpose, doing what I really like doing.


The fact that change is something imminent also means that nothing is set in stone, everything is constantly in the flow. This knowledge can help us to gratefully accept change. Also knowing that in the presence, in the here and now, nearly everything is well and okay can help us to stay open and curious for what is to come. When we concentrate on our chore at hand and see it as the most important thing in your life, we can start to enjoy everything and get into the flow. This way we make access to our energy and power potential. We can take on new things and meet new people.


Being open and read to gratefully take on the new, letting go becomes a natural and self-evident part of change and our being. Letting go of the old in order to make space for something new brings relief and clarity. We can breathe freely and be happy.


Change and transformation are mostly a positive aspect in life, although it does not look like it in the first place.


Even if it really scares us, we can decide to be open for a new way, today.


In case we manage to approach change this way, we can accept whatever life throws at us and make the best of it.


The following question can assist you in letting go and welcoming:

  • What does not serve me anymore and I want to let go?
  • Which ghosts of the past do I still carry with me and why?
  • What do I want to give up to welcome something new?
  • Which negative patterns did you get stuck with?
  • Which limiting believes are holding you back?
  • What do I want to welcome in my life?
  • What is my calling?
  • What is really important to me? What would I die for?
  • What is the purpose of my life?
  • What do I want to contribute to the world?


Picture from Thomas B. on Pixabay
Picture from Thomas B. on Pixabay


Close your eyes and imagine it is your 95th birthday.


Imagine waking up in the morning. You prepare a cup of coffee/tea and go onto your balcony or terrace and look back onto your life. What do you want to see?


Now, it’s time for your official Birthday celebrations. Many people have come, and some stand up to tell something about you and your life. What do you want them to say about you?


Once you finished the exercise, write everything down you think is important. Read it time and again and ask yourself what it is you want to welcome into your life.


Enjoy your life and be well,







inner works for you


sibylle chaudhuri | coaching & training

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