11th rough night for effortless success

4th January – November


Sibylle Chaudhuri

3rd January 2022


Accepting change

Image from DarkmoonArt.de from Pixabay
Image from DarkmoonArt.de from Pixabay

The eleventh rough night is entrusted to the energy of November. Long gone are the long and warm summer days, our sociable life with all those casual and relaxed encounters and balmy evenings spent outside. November brings us dark and dull days. The plants let go of the last leaves and blossoms, nature retreats and is covered by a grey waft of mist. Like nature we have shifted our life inside into our warm homes. We often perceive November as dreary and unfriendly. 


But nature follows calmly the change of season. She knows that every time has its meaning and accepts it gratefully. It starts collecting strength for a new beginning. 


How can we follow nature?


Welcome change

Picture from Gerd Altman on Pixabay
Picture from Gerd Altman on Pixabay

The eleventh rough night and November, both are challenging us to follow nature's example and not only to accept change but to welcome it and to open up to the new. Every farewell has a new beginning up its sleeves if we just allow it.


The only constant in our life is change. Unfortunately, as human beings we are programmed to fear change, anything new and unknown, it could be life-threatening.


When our ancestors had to stray off course of a known and safe path when being out in the wild, it was of very important to look for dangers e.g. rampaging mammoth, hungry saber-toothed tigers, enemies of another tribe and more – their life was depending on it.


And it still works the same way today. Our brain does not differ between a Saber-toothed tiger or the threats of the unknown in our modern life. Our brain tends to see a potential threat in change and everything new, the unknown. Therefore, we have so many difficulties to welcome change into our life.


Imagine we are going to a fortune-teller and s/he predicts a change in our love-life or our job.


What comes into your mind immediately?


Often it’s thoughts like:

“Oh no, s/he betrays me, s/he is going to dump me.”

“I knew they will fire me.”

“What now?”

“Every time I am feeling well, the next problem comes along …”



Picture from Thomas B. on Pixabay
Picture from Thomas B. on Pixabay

Rarely does it come to our mind, that it could also mean, that our relationship might get even better, or that we get a new and better boss, or the long-awaited chance, that gets us where we always wanted to be, etc. Even getting fired could mean the needed push to have the courage to finally follow our purpose, doing what we really like doing.


The fact that change is something imminent, that nothing is set in stone, everything is constantly in the flow can help us to gratefully accept change. We can stay open and curious for what is to come. We can start to enjoy everything and get into the flow. This way we can access our energy and power potential. We can take on new things and meet new people.


Being open and ready to gratefully take on everything new, letting go becomes a natural and self-evident part of change and our being. Letting go of the old in order to make space for something new brings relief and clarity. We can breathe freely and be happy.


Change and transformation are mostly a positive aspect in life, even though it often does not seem like it in the first place. Even if it really scares us, we can still decide to be open for a new way, today. If we can approach change this way, we can accept whatever life throws at us and make the best of it.


The following question can assist us in accepting and welcoming change:

  • What does not serve me anymore how can I let go?
  • Which ghosts of the past do I still carry with me and why?
  • What do I want to give up, to welcome something new?
  • What do I want to welcome in my life?
  • What is my calling?
  • What is really important to me? What would I die for?
  • What is the purpose of my life?
  • What do I want to contribute to the world?



Picture from Thomas B. on Pixabay
Picture from Thomas B. on Pixabay

Close your eyes and imagine it is your 95th birthday.


Imagine waking up in the morning. You prepare a cup of coffee/tea and go onto your balcony or terrace and look back onto your life.

What do you want to see?

What do you regret?

What are you proud of?


Write everything down what you think is important. Read it time and again and ask yourself what it is that you want to welcome into your life.


Enjoy your life and be well,






inner works for you


sibylle chaudhuri

beratung | coaching | training | mediation

email: info@sibylle-chaudhuri.com





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