The tenth rough night is energetically connected with the month of October and October represents equation. Nature shows itself in all facets of its being, it presents itself in a blaze of colour and gifts us with aplenty of fruit. The sunlight is still comfortably warm and pleases the eye. The whole atmosphere is very pleasant. Even though the nights are slowly getting longer, night and day are about the same length.

It is about time, to show ourselves in all our facets as well; to allow ourselves to be our true self and to follow our heart, our intuition. Once more it necessitates a balanced approach. On the one hand we need to set our intellect aside time and again, to listen inside us, to listen what our heart and our gut want to tell us. They are our intuition which supports our mind to gain insights, to set creative impulses and find solutions. On the other hand, we need the capability to align our heart and mind to cooperate to make clear decisions. Which way do we want to take, without falling for pseudo-harmonies, false compromises, and illusions. It is about allowing ourselves our potential and let it unfold completely and beautifully – being our true self.

Exercise

#1 Be mindful for what is. Use your five senses

#2 A few times a day become still and listen to yourself. Pay attention to what is coming up and ask yourself how you want to handle it.

#3 Spend some time alone every day.

To be able to present ourselves in all our facets, we need to see and acknowledge them. We need our environment to do so, the encounter with others holding a mirror up in front of us to enable us to take a good look at ourselves. This way we can capture ourselves completely and recognise what we accept about us and what we still recline. Only then, we can start working on ourselves. We can make peace and become balanced.

Meeting others we are usually compassionate and forgiving. We accept, understand, and forgive mistakes and missed changes of others. Unfortunately, we are less empathic with ourselves. We have unreachable high expectations of ourselves. In case something does not go according to our expectations our inner critic is harsh on us and punishes us having no mercy.

Balance yourself

#1 Pay attention how you talk to yourself.

#2 Talk to yourself and treat yourself like you would do it with your loved ones.

During October we often think back to the warm and long days in summer. Our thoughts are often nostalgic, melancholic or might even be rueful. In October we can slowly accept the fact that the days are getting shorter and cooler. We carry the beautiful summer days in our hearts. The tenth rough night and the month of October prompt us to use this concept to make peace. 

Your past with all your events and experiences, even though you might perhaps perceive them as negative today, have made you who you are now. In hindsight everything is always clearer, more logic, simpler, etc. But that is only the case because you have learned from your past experiences.

This knowledge can help you to make peace with yourself and others. You cannot bring your past back, you cannot change it, but you can learn from it and use it as your resource.

Experiment #1

Make peace with your past by trusting that everything happened for a reason, that there is no good or bad, right, or wrong. Everything is just the way it is, and all is well the way it is . It is the learning process of your soul. It happens for you to actually get better and grow.

Experiment #2

Become mindful of everything that is right now and try to accept everything the way it is right now because you know everything happens for a reason. Thus, you can allow yourself to relax and calm down a little bit. Then you take a better look at the situation and ask yourself how you could navigate through it. Maybe, there is nothing to do but to accept it the way it is and make the best of it 

Trust that everything takes its course and that you have all that you need inside of you to solve your tasks and challenges. You do not have to do everything on your own, you are allowed to ask for help. Maybe the question is not “How to do it?” but “Who can I ask?”.

Be patient and compassionate with yourself. Being mindful and making peace with yourself does not happen immediately but is a process – step by step – and time and again.

While taking your steps to a more stress-less life, make sure to be well.