The tenth rough night is energetically connected with the month of October. October represents equation. Nature shows itself in all facets of its being, it presents itself in a blaze of colour and gifts us with aplenty of fruit. The sunlight is still comfortably warm and pleases the eye. The whole atmosphere is very pleasant. Even though the nights are slowly getting longer, night and day are about the same length.

It is about time, to show ourself in all our facets as well; to allow ourselves to be our true self and to follow our heart, our higher self. Once more it necessitates a balanced approach. On the one hand we need to set our intellect aside time and again, to listen inside us, to listen what our heart and our gut want to tell us. They are our intuition which supports our mind to gain insights, to set creative impulses and find solutions. On the other hand, we need the capability to align our heart and mind to cooperate to make clear decisions. Which way do we want to take, without falling for pseudo-harmonies, false compromises and illusions. It is about allowing ourselves our true potential and let it unfold completely and beautifully.

To be able to present ourselves in all our facets and to use them for your success, we need to see and acknowledge them. We need our environment to do so, the encounter with others holding a mirror up in front of us to enable us to take a good look at ourselves. This way we can capture ourselves completely and recognise what we accept about us and what we still recline. Only then, we can start working on ourselves. We can make peace and become balanced.

Meeting others we are usually compassionate and forgiving. We accept, understand, and forgive mistakes and missed changes of others. Unfortunately, we are less empathic with ourselves. We have unreachable high expectations of ourselves. In case something does not go according to our expectations our inner critic is harsh on us and punishes us having no mercy.

Balance yourself

#1 Pay attention how you talk to yourself.

#2 Give yourself your own compassion, understanding and love.

#3 Take good care of yourself and make sure to fulfill your own needs, not only the needs of others. Only when we are well, we can help others.

During October we often think back to the warm and long days in summer. Our thoughts are often nostalgic, melancholic or might even be rueful. In October we can slowly accept the fact that the days are getting shorter and cooler. We carry the beautiful summer days in our hearts. The tenth rough night and the month of October prompt us to use this concept to make peace. 

Our past with all its events and experiences, even though we might perceive them as negative today, have made us what we are today. In hindsight everything is always clearer, more logic, simpler, etc. But we make our decisions at any given moment only based on what we have experienced so far, our current knowledge and with the perception in this very moment. 

The past has gone by, it is what it is. We cannot bring it back, we cannot change it, but we can learn from it and use it as our resource. This is what we need to remember and use it accordingly.

Experiment

Make peace with your past by trusting that everything happened for a reason, that there is no good or bad, right, or wrong. Everything is just the way it is, and all is well. It is the learning process of your soul. Trust that everything takes it course and that you have all you need inside of you to solve your tasks and challenges.

To make peace with yourself it is helpful to strengthen your self-worth.

Exercise

Take 10 minutes every evening and write a journal or diary. You could make use of the following questions:

• What was good today? What good happened to me today?
• What did I achieve today?
• What made me happy today?
• What did I manage today?
• Who did I make happy today by smiling at them, making a compliment, or only by listening to them?

By treating ourselves lovingly and understandingly we can treat others in the same way. By acknowledging our own strengths and values, we can see them in others too. We can build strong and close friendships with others.

Take good care of yourself and be well.